Thousands of mums admit that unwanted advice and snide comments from others over how they’re raising their kids is leading to fallouts, and it seems that grandmas are the biggest culprit.
One in three mums has fallen out with someone over how to raise their children, with unwanted comments and remarks on how they should bring up their offspring from their own mothers the most likely to cause a row.
That’s according to a new study released today which found that after their own mother, mums are most likely to fall out with their partner, mother-in-law and friends and even health visitors, are also guilty of annoying mums after making an unwelcome comment about their child.
Potty training was found to be the most common cause of arguments, while behaviour, growth and childrens’ eating and sleeping habits were other touchy subjects.
For almost a quarter of mums, the arguments were so serious, they even stopped talking to the offending party, with almost one in ten admitting it was at least six months before they put it all behind them and made up.
The study revealed that three quarters of mums often have to put up with comments from other people on their child’s growth, development or behaviour. And over half of mums even say they regularly face remarks from complete strangers.
‘Aren’t they tall/short’ was revealed as the most common remark faced by mums, followed by ‘When my child was that age, they were already walking/talking.’ Other mums have been told their child should be talking more than they were, criticised for giving them a dummy and questioned about whether their child was eating properly.
But while some mums are able to take the comments on the chin, one third of mums admit they get very defensive whenever someone says something about their child’s development and over half are left feeling down and upset by the remarks.
One in ten mums surveyed by Huggies Pull-Ups even claimed that someone commenting on their child has made them worry that something is wrong when they previously had no concerns – with 16% being so troubled, they have ended up speaking to a doctor or health visitor. Researchers also found that for some, the remarks start as early as when they are pregnant, with 73% finding people were more likely to ask personal questions or offer unwanted advice as soon as they have a bump.
Top 10 remarks to mums about their children
- Aren’t they tall/short
- When my child was that age, they were walking, talking etc
- Your child is very boisterous
- They should be talking more by now
- They should be sleeping through the night by now
- You shouldn’t give them a dummy
- They don’t eat very well, do they?
- They should be walking by now
- They should be crawling by now
- They should have given up their dummy by now
The research for Huggies Pull-Ups was carried out online by OnePoll between 30 / 05 / 2012 and 06 / 06 / 2012 amongst a panel resulting in 2,000 mums of children aged 0-10 respondents. All research conducted adheres to the MRS Codes of Conduct (2010) in the UK and ICC/ESOMAR World Research Guidelines. Opinion Matters is registered with the Information Commissioner’s Office and is fully compliant with the Data Protection Act (1998).