With the biggest wedding in years now consigned to memory, a new survey has lifted the lid on what makes us cry and why, revealing those who shed a tear at the Royal Wedding are in fact among the minority…
The nationwide research among 5,000 parents concluded the most common reason for adults to cry was a death in the family (60 per cent) while only 2 per cent of those polled said a wedding would make bring a tear to their eye, although 1 in 3 of us has cried within the last 7 days.
The research was conducted to establish peoples’ attitudes to crying to launch “Comforting with Colief” a campaign to help educate parents on how to comfort crying babies from Colief Infant Drops and UK charity Cry-Sis.
Despite the image of Britons’ having a “stiff upper lip” a huge 82 per cent of women admitted to crying in secret, with more than half of men admitting the same. The shower ranked highly among secret crying places, as did the car, and toilet cubicles.
Worryingly, 45 per cent of parents said they’ve struggled to comfort their baby’s crying, with 1 in every 3 mums claiming they’ve been driven to “the end of their tether” by their baby’s crying, and 14 per cent stating they had done something uncharacteristic in reaction to their baby’s crying, like slamming a door.
A quarter of all parents said they’ve had to take a break from their baby’s crying to compose themselves, while 14 per cent said their child’s crying had caused arguments in their relationship.
John Bullen, from Cry-Sis said the charity had helped many parents who felt they couldn’t cope. “Crying in babies is a normal response to hunger or discomfort. Excessive crying is not, especially if it continues for many hours. Often it can’t be explained and can be hard to cope with, especially for new parents.”
The survey showed that the reason most parents felt their babies cried was tiredness, with others dreading bathtime, bedtime and loud noises for fear of triggering a crying episode. 47 per cent of parents felt their baby had suffered from colic, defined as repeated episodes of excessive and inconsolable crying in a newborn baby which otherwise appears to be perfectly healthy.
Sharon Skelton from Colief, said, “The reason some babies suffer from excessive crying – one of the symptoms of colic, is unclear. However, ruling out milk sensitivity is one of the first recommended NHS steps. A one week trial of Colief Infant Drops, which contain the naturally-occurring enzyme lactase, can help rule out or identify milk sensitivity. When added to the babies ‘usual milk’ (whether breast fed or formula), Colief breaks down most of the lactose and makes the feed more easily digestible. If there is a noticeable improvement in symptoms in the space of a week, the drops can be used longer term to ease the symptoms.”
Priced at £11.99, Colief is available from pharmacies nationwide. For help and advice, call the Colief Infant Drops Helpline on (0800) 0281187 or visit www.colief.com
For more information and support from Cry Sis – visit www.cry-sis.org.uk or call the Cry Sis helpline on 08451 228 669.